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The words aren't uttered loudly in many church circles.
They are hushed and spoken only between close friends.
If you ever find yourself referring to a woman whose husband died on a battlefield as a single mother, you should immediately pour Tabasco sauce into your eyes, because you deserve to weep all the tears I’m certain she has.We want to help you become the kind of man who can be a good husband." What kind of traits should women be looking for in a husband? I look back now and I think that God protected me from so much by just not letting me have a date.These are very practical questions you can ask of someone fairly early on in a relationship in a non-threatening way and really get a picture of his character. The biggest danger of “soul mate-ism” is the idea that: "There’s one person out there for me, and if I can find this one person, then I’m guaranteed a happy marriage." Marriage is hard. Everyone in marriage will experience difficulty, because you’re uniting two sinners. Far better to go into it thinking, 'I have found the best possible mate that I can find given where I live, who I know and what I bring to the relationship. Even though it was so painful at the time to not have a date when everybody else did, I'm so thankful that I didn't come into my marriage with any relational baggage.But once you have a child, you cannot take it back. Third, single mothers profoundly misunderstand men. There are few men who are overjoyed to spend their blood, sweat and tears on some other guy’s genetic offspring. A woman who cares so little about her children, her own prospects, and her future husband is NOT going to make a great wife. Oh, and in return, you have to make HER the center of your life. When you meet a divorced single mother, immediately start looking for the flaw. Something that drove another man to pledge his undying love to her, to have and to hold, from this day forth, and then sometime later decide “fuck this shit. Be very cautious around a woman who takes none of the blame for her failed marriage.You might not be the FIRST man she blames all her problems on, but you sure as hell can be NEXT. On the whole, give single and divorced mothers a pass. Little girls long for daddies as much as little boys. The children of single mothers have already been wounded so deeply by the lack of a father.